你和伴侣或朋友常常争论什么？

Discussion Questions

1.你和伴侣或朋友常常争论什么？
What do couples or friends often argue about?
2.你自己是怎么处理冲突的？你比较冷静还是冲动？
How do you deal with conflicts yourself? Are you rather calm or impulsive?
3.什么能帮助你和解？
What helps you make peace again?
4.“你为什么不听我说？”
"Why don't you listen to me?"
5.“你能不能更体贴一点？”
"Can't you be more considerate?"
6.“你能尊重我吗？”
"Can you please respect me?"
7.“你不在乎我的愿望吗？”
"Don't you care about my wishes?"
8.“你能多花点时间陪我吗？”
"Could you take more time for me?"
9.“我们上次一起做什么是在什么时候？”
"When was the last time we did something together?"
10.“你觉得晚上两个人在一起很舒服吗？”
"What do you think about a cozy evening for two?"
11.“为什么我总是要倒垃圾？”
"Why do I always have to take out the trash?"
12.“你上次真的和我谈话是什么时候？”
"When was the last time you really talked to me?"

冲突 (chōngtú) - conflict

体贴 (tǐtiē) - considerate, thoughtful

愿望 (yuànwàng) - wish, desire

花时间 (huā shíjiān) - to take time for

一起做 (yīqǐ zuò) - to do something together

倒垃圾 (dào lājī) - to take out (the trash)

避免 (bìmiǎn) - to avoid

争吵 (zhēngchǎo) - argument

和解 (héjiě) - to reconcile

被误解 (bèi wùjiě) - to be misunderstood

感到被尊重 (gǎndào bèi zūnzhòng) - to feel respected

我理解你有这样的感觉。

I understand that you feel that way.

让我们冷静地谈谈这个。

Let’s talk about this calmly.

我不是故意要伤害你。

It wasn’t my intention to hurt you.

或许我们可以找到一个折中方案。

Maybe we can find a compromise.

我希望我们彼此能更加关注对方。

I would hope that we both pay more attention to each other.